The NVC empathy formula: "When you [observation] did you feel [pick a feeling from list below] because you wanted more [pick a need/value]?"

FEELINGS

Absorbed
Affectionate
Afraid
Aggravated
Agitated
Alarmed
Aloof
Amazed
Ambiguous
Ambivalent
Amused
Angry
Anguished
Animated
Annoyed
Anticipation
Anxious
Apathetic
Apprehensive
Aroused
Ashamed
At ease
Beat
Bewildered
Bitter
Blah
Blue
Bold
Bored
Brave
Bright
Brokenhearted
Calm
Carefree
Cautious
Certain
Chagrined
Challenged
Cheerful
Cheery
Close
Cold
Comfortable
Concerned
Confident
Content
Courageous
Curious
Daring
Dejected
Delighted
Depressed
Desire
Despair
Despairing
Despondent
Detached
Determined
Disaffected
Disappointed
Discouraged
Disenchanted
Disgruntled
Disgusted
Disheartened
Dismayed
Displeased
Disquieted
Distressed
Disturbed
Doubt(ful)
Downcast
Dull
Dynamic
Eager
Earnest
Ecstatic
Edgy
Elated
Embarrassed
Embittered
Empty
Encouraged
Energetic
Engrossed
Enthusiastic
Envy
Exasperated
Excited
Exhausted
Fascinated
Fatigued
Fearful
Festive
Fidgety
Forlorn
Fragile
Free
Frightened
Frisky
Frustrated
Full
Furious
Gay
Glad
Glee
Gleeful
Gloomy
Grateful
Great
Guarded
Guilty
Hardy
Harried
Heavy
Helpless
Hesitant
Hollow
Hopeful
Horny
Horrible
Horrified
Hostile
Hot
Humdrum
Hungry
Hurt
Impatient
Impulsive
Indifferent
Inquisitive
Inspired
Intense
Interested
Intrigued
Irate
Irked
Irritated
Jealous
Jittery
Joy
Joyous
Jubilant
Keen
Keyed-up
Lazy
Leery
Lethargic
Liberated
Listless
Lonely
Loved
Loving
Lucky
Mad
Mean
Meh
Merry
Miserable
Mopey
Morose
Mournful
Nervous
Nettled
Nostalgia
Nosy
Numb
Open
Optimistic
Overjoyed
Overwhelmed
Pain
Panicky
Passionate
Passive
Peaceful
Perplexed
Pessimistic
Playful
Pleased
Pride
Proud
Puzzled
Quiet
Rancorous
Rebellious
Regret
Relaxed
Relief
Reluctant
Repelled
Resentful
Restless
Sad
Safe
Satisfaction
Satisfied
Scared
Secure
Sensitive
Serene
Sexy
Shaky
Shocked
Shy
Skeptical
Sleepy
Snarky
Snoopy
Sore
Sorrowful
Sorry
Spirited
Spiritless
Startled
Strong
Sunny
Surprised
Suspicious
Sympathy
Tenacious
Tender
Tepid
Terrified
Thankful
Thrilled
Tired
Torn
Touched
Troubled
Uncomfortable
Unconcerned
Undecided
Uneasy
Unglued
Unhappy
Unique
Unnerved
Unsteady
Upset
Uptight
Vexed
Warm
Weary
Wistful
Withdrawn
Woeful
Wonderful
Worried
Wretched
Yum

NEEDS

Acceptance
Accuracy
Adventure
Affection
Air
Appreciation
Authenticity
Autonomy
Awareness
Be(ing) heard
Be(ing) known
Be(ing) seen
Be(ing) understood
Beauty
Belonging
Celebration
Challenge
Choice
Clarity
Cleanliness
Closeness
Comfort
Communication
Communion
Community
Companionship
Compassion
Competence
Completion
Connection
Consciousness
Consideration
Consistency
Contribution
Cooperation
Courage
Creativity
Depth
Discovery
Ease
Economy
Effectiveness
Efficacy
Efficiency
Elegance
Empathy
Equality
Equity
Excellence
Exercise
Expression
Fairness
Flexibility
Focus
Food
Freedom
Fun
Growth
Harmony
Health
Honesty
Hope
Humor
Inclusion
Independence
Inspiration
Integrity
Intelligence
Intimacy
Joy
Know(ing)
Knowledge
Learning
Liberation
Logic
Love
Mastery
Matter
Matter(ing)
Meaning
Mental stimulation
Mourning
Movement
Mutuality
Nourishment
Nurturing
Order
Participation
Patience
Peace
Play
Power
Predictability
Presence
Purpose
Reason
Recognition
Respect
Rest
Safety
Security
See(ing)
Self-expression
Self-respect
Serenity
Sexual expression
Sexual fulfillment
Shared reality
Shelter
Sleep
Solitude
Space
Spontaneity
Stability
Stimulation
Strength
Support
Sustainability
Sustenance
Touch
Trust
Truth
Understanding
Variety
Visual stimulation
Warmth
Water
Yum

 

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